That fact is, we can’t control our emotions.
Can you accurately and consistently predict how you will feel next Tuesday? Does telling yourself to be confident always make you feel confident? Does someone yelling at you always make you mad?
The answer to these questions is no.
What Can You Do About Emotion?
The absolute best you can do is to accurately and honestly assess your feelings at that moment, and then decide to act appropriately.
All Chemically dependent people have poor self-esteem, whether they had it before they became dependent or developed it as a result. People with poor self-image have a terrible time believing they deserve anything good. They feel they have messed up and deserve whatever rotten fate befalls them. If it doesn’t happen naturally, they manufacture it or trigger it.
They find ways to sabotage or short-circuit relationships, they court disaster until they capture it, they create crises so that they can fail to weather the arduous process of recovery.Those who struggle with addiction often set themselves up for failure so that they can anticipate results, because the unknown is more terrifying than failing.
Fear of Succeeding
The basic problem for most people in recovery is not fear of failure, but fear of success.
If this sounds like you, the solution is to get out of your own way, so you can enjoy the abundant riches of full recovery. It’s not a problem of wanting too much, but believing that too little is attainable. Our emotions, although unable to be controlled, can aid us instead of hindering our progress.
If you or a loved one wants to learn more about our substance abuse programs, please reach out to us today. Our admissions team is available 24/7 at (877)-RECOVERY to answer your questions.